staying in the present

It's 2011 now and as per usual I'm sure blogs around the world are full of resolutions and resolutions and more resolutions. So why pretend I'm thinking otherwise? Might as well get on with it and put it out there before it becomes increasingly embarrasing to talk about when it's halfway through the year. Because talking about it is what helps one keep their resolutions, right?
Here we go:
1. Don’t oblige yourself unless you really want to
I learnt over a number of small and big obligations I put on myself that it's in fact not necessary to oblige yourself to make that promise, offer to help, pretend it looks great or look out for everyone, unless I really want to. It goes down the same line with learning to say 'no.' Not that I'm particularly a pushover, just that I have this innate desire to please people. Not healthy, at least in this time and age because people's desires are limitless and we've caught onto this.

2. Share-thoughts, dreams, wishes and fears
I've also realised over numerous examples and scenarios played out that when thoughts aren't shared enough, complications arise. Same goes for wishes and fears. Dreams are also important to share because it validates who you are because the person next you will then know what you wish for. Sharing ultimately makes things real. Unless you share your dreams it may never happen because it takes two to make some dreams come true. And not to be moody when they don't instantly 'read' you. Ultimately, it's about being unafraid to put yourself out on the line and share something with someone that says the truth about you.

3. Delay if possible-when making fairly big decisions
This one I learnt from the hubby. He doesn't like making rash decisions and on the spot purchases. This can be good and bad. In my case very good, because it means I think twice before buying another set of plant pots with matching plates because it has cute little bugs on it and I really really need it. Same goes for large purchases as well as decisions that I later wish I never made in the first place. Delaying gives me the freedom to think and consider options. No rocket science really.

4. Set short term goals-get to know some colleagues better; complete the tasks I’ve delayed
These help measure my progress of growing up, I think. Unless I can see that the changes I'm making in my life are producing results I'll give up. There are many large goals I had set that are left unfinished. So from now now concetrating on the little things and goals will be my goal. A little ironic especially as I've said 'from now on...' but it's a goal nevertheless.

5. Downsize possessions and belongings
Where did I hear that 'the more you own the less freedom you have?' probably some movie that I can't remember the name of, until it comes to me at some random time of the day. Either way, a massive year long clean out is what I need and should have. No need for explanations I think.

6. Invest in the stock exchange
Saving in a savings account is no longer fun. It was when there was a fairly significant amount to watch grow but since our trip to Thalaind it's a little depleted and the thought of starting again is a little depressing. Having stocks and bonds can be a security issue, plus it's not readily available when resolution number 3 crumbles.

7. Relish my freedom
Breaking down the invisible wall that's holding me back. Enough said.

8. Appreciate what I have
The neverending cycle of want, desire and consumption is a scary thing. Appreciate what I have because, I most likely have everything I need.

9. Dance more
Endorphins good. Flushed cheeks good. Happy times good.

It seems most of my resolutions are for someone who is determined to stay in the present and not push oneself. But hey, why not? All decisions are made in the past. And since we think about our future quite a bit anyway, when it comes to making the final decisions, hopefully, the above resolutions will help.